7 Human Development Phase

Stage stage of human development has a long phase. For the purpose of organizing and understanding, we generally describe the development in terms of periods or phases of development. Classification of developmental period most widely used include the following sequence: prenatal period, infancy, early childhood kids, during the mid and late children, adolescence, early adulthood, middle age and the end of the mature adult.

Estimated average age range in the following period to give a general idea of ​​when the period begins and ends. Here is a more detailed explanation at each stage of human development stage period in the book Life-Span Development by John Santrock: Period antenatal (prenatal period) is the time from conception to birth. This period is a time of incredible growth from a single cell organism to be perfect with the ability of the brain and behavior, resulting in a period of approximately 9 months.

Here are 7 Human Development Phase

1. The Baby Stage

Infancy (infacy) is the developmental period that spans from birth to 18 or 24 months. Infancy is a period that is very dependent on adults. Many psychological activity that occurs only as the beginning of such a language, symbolic thought, sensorimotor coordination, and social learning.


2. Early Stage Children

Early childhood children (early chidhood) developments spanning the period from infancy to age five or six years, this period is usually called the preschool period. During this period, young children learn more independently and take care of themselves, develop school readiness skills (following orders, identifying letters), and spent countless hours of time to play with your peers. If you have entered the first grade of primary school, then in general the end of its initial children.


3. The Middle Stage

During the mid and late children (middle and late childhood) is the developmental period extending from about age six to eleven years old, approximately equivalent to a year in elementary school, this period is usually referred to the year in primary school. Skills fundamental skills such as reading, writing, and arithmetic has mastered. Children formally linked with the wider world and culture. Achievement become a more central theme of the child's world and self-control increased.


4. Adolescence Stage

Adolescence (Adolescence) is a period of transition from early childhood to early adulthood children, who entered at the age of approximately 10 to 12 years old and ending at age 18 years to 22 years. Adolescence begins in rapid physical change, weight and height were dramatic, changes in body shape, and the development of sexual characteristics such as breast enlargement, development waist and a mustache, and it sound. In this development, the achievement of independence and identity are prominent (the logical thinking, abstract and idealistic) and the more time spent outside the family.


5. Early Stage Adults

Early adulthood (early Adulthood) is a period of development that begins in the late teens or early twenties and ended at the age of tugapuluhan years. It is the formation of personal and economic independence, future career development, and for many people, the mate selection, learning to live with someone familiar, start families, and parenting children.


6. Stage of the Middle Ages Adults

The mid-adulthood (middle Adulthood) is a period of development that begins at the age of approximately 35 to 45 years and spans up to age sixties. It is time to expand the involvement and personal and social responsibility as individuals to help the next generation become competent, mature and achieve and maintain career satisfaction.


7. Period End Adults

The period of late adulthood (late Adulthood) is a period of development that begins at the age of sixties or seventies and ended in death. It is a time of adjustment to the loss of strength and health, looking back over his life, retirement, and tuning in to the role of new social roles.

Logical thinking

Thinking is not always logical, because it proved a lot of people's words and actions illogical, unreasonable because one collects data, one sort of data, wrong data sorting, categorizing wrong, so wrong conclusions and wrong ultimately take action.

Require logical thinking processes and stages and sequences. So all the facts, data, ideas and conclusions in the cluster in such a way, structured, organized, no pattern, so that each sequence could explain himself so that the circuit is a chain that makes sense, logically. Therefore, to think logically need a separate mental processes. That is, there is a learning process that can not be cut to save time or effort (short-cut). Main short-cut is to eliminate some of the chain takes the brain to understand the material / situations.

The logic is needed in this life, so I can tell which actions lead to goodness and benefits, which leads to negative. Try to look back, what has been your attitude and actions more use logic or driven by mood and feelings?

Early Preparation Facing Selection

Nowadays, especially in large cities, in the minds of almost every high school kid embedded plans to go to college. There are plans to continue studying in the private sector, there is also a wish to enter the State University. No one wants to continue in the country, but many are planning to study abroad.

There's the fact that we need to look at together, the number of Indonesian students in the year 2011 is estimated at 4.8 million or 18.4% of the total population age 19 s / d 24 years. The Government through the Ministry of Education expects that number to increase in 2014 to 30% in order to increase the number of "intellectuals" and is expected to push the pace of economic and other sectors. Another fact, the BPS at the end of 2010 revealed the highest unemployment rate is dominated by the degree and diploma (11.92% and 12.78% of 8:32 million unemployed in Indonesia). Of the entire workforce, over 50% are those who graduated from primary school. 66.94% of it is informal sector workers, and only 44% are working in the formal sector. In order not to cause confusion, then the picture is not linear and as unrelated to each other's needs in combination in the context of a more modest. That until recently, Indonesia's economy is still dependent on the Primary School graduate workforce that support the country's economic movement. While people who are expected to become Indonesia's economic pillars, namely the degree and diploma still can not fully contribute scientifically acquired during years of study in college because a lot of mismatch between demand with supply, the quantity with quality, between dreams and reality. Dreams are?

When viewed in a variety of media, both print and online, no less-the lack of jobs for flood announcement undergraduate and diploma to offer an interesting position. If the pair, it is possible that the number of undergraduate and diploma candidates for employment in accordance with the number of jobs available. But the reality, as it is in asking the user company, in general, they said that many applicants are on the test, but few meet the criteria, in other words, a lot of that in the selection but very few escaped. The question is, why is that hard? Is it difficult test questions, job criteria are too high, or the quality of job candidates who do not meet the standard?

There have been many theories and explanations regarding HR issues that point to specific factors such as lack of insight, knowledge, skills of the candidates that do not meet the standard criteria related companies. Alternatively, factors mismatch between demand candidates with companies that offer no agreement is reached between the two. The second factor was generally occur at levels that are strategic and not at the level that is still beginner or intermediate. Finally, many degree and diploma who missed work for reasons of incompatibility that while it can not bridge. In this article I would like to invite readers to see and think more deeply, not only blaming the conditions or standards that exist, so that everyone can eventually take control over their own lives.

Dissecting reality

Problems that occur in the workplace, not just the instant matter, but rather the result of a long process. This article focuses on the job-seekers than the job seekers as though after all, the job seekers have the power and control to select and determine their choices.

Ever thought about why we are considered less human but if judging school background turns cool and famous, expensive anyway; either inside or outside the country; want that in small towns, big cities and city districts. There are very good when in the interview, but failed when in psycho. There are already received, but failed on probation. Actually, regardless of the quality and the quality of the school, what factors make someone "different" that is considered worthy to consider?

You are what you do

That question is not easily answered by looking at who we are or he is right now, from the stories, status, and from the words printed in the Curriculum Vitae. In fact many people are stuck because a good CV and the candidates expressed an awesome story. However, when in the next round of selection, the impression that was built in the early desperately looks meetings is not congruent with the actual journey of life and the quality of the real self. The question is, what happened over the past few years to learn and study the extent to which the seriousness of the search for knowledge and experience after graduation if it still has not seen a clear ground or roots.

If pulled far back, and if asked to the candidates, what exactly is the motivation take college? Is because they want to go forward or driven automatically by the family (parents) to go forward, whether that choice is taken up interest in science and expertise, or because the line is faster and offers "convenience" in finding money. In addition, how to manage your time, whether in college more play, socialize and revelers than the proportion of learning and character building through constructive activities consistent.

Why did it become so important, what is the relevance? His relationship is closely related to fundamental questions that arise in each person: What are my ideals? The extent to which I strive to achieve my goal? Since in practice many undergraduate and graduate diploma when interviewed was puzzled questioning his ideals. If the line is drawn back in a linear fashion, the teens were still in high school at this time was often confused when asked what he wanted and what is its future study options. Confusion and ignorance upon yourself this plays an important role in her life in the future, especially when entering the workforce. Because once traced, was the chosen subject is not of interest;, but a secondary consideration (college fast, cool, many of his friends, his city of more cool, relaxed and easy lecture, easy job, great salary) finally beat the true interests.

In the end, college years lived in a flat, even sometimes feel heavy as difficult to find enjoyment in the lecture aspect except hanging out with friends. This happens because there are too afraid to make decisions that may very well alienate ourselves from the common area (common area) or at least supporters. That there if we reluctantly had to fend for themselves on the path to some people, considered to be an idealist. Finally we have to study for college and finish college because they have graduated from college and quickly find work and earn money. This attitude makes us psychologically not have the passion and persistence of high, lacking the fighting spirit and the desire to always seek and produce the best. In our thinking, if we are not serious about finally pass the "so what's the need to bother"; especially if we have a belief that when it's finished college too, do not have to worry about not having a job, because the job will come by itself. But we should not forget, that such a mechanism for us to lose control of my life, because it does not have much choice, and bargaining power because we are not strong qualities that mediocre.

The consequences true choice

Attitude dare choose according to your interests and vocation, will make us more motivated to explore, continue to find answers to curiosity can be more in control of my life. Courage itself is a logical consequence the courage to keep commitments. Dare to choose, dare to be responsible. Bitter-bitter, if the value is not good we realize that we must strive to be better although initially for self-esteem.

The consequences of choosing something that is not a real option, in addition to feeling flat course, we did not expend the energy and motivation that optimal (the best we can do). Even sometimes we are more focused on the activities of non-academic and non-formal education to enrich and intensify our CV later. Actually, it never hurts to be active in organizational activities and social performances. All must have knowledge and experience that can be learned. However, it would be pleasure if we take the courses that fit with our vocation, interests and our curiosity, coupled with campus activities and off-campus actualizing abilities and talents. So is complimentary.

In contrast, if we do not like our choice, but due to "mandatory" lecture, and the important work it over and quickly, then we will seek compensation for the emptiness of life by finding a container that can be answered we need to find a sense of self. The problem is, the container is not sufficiently comprehensive and complex to be able to bring a sense of self intact and realistic. For example, the activities of which there may not be enough to build a sense of pride in achievement and attainment achieved by us or someone because after all, it's generally a collective activity (teamwork) and transient (short term), all work together and not everyone do the whole process from a - z. But later when interviewing, proudly assume it is because of the services or our greatness.

Similarly, recent graduates who are still around, in and out of work and trying to find existence. Often the experience of success in the previous work considered personal credit so that it is also to be considered in demanding compensation and facility size. This is what causes the gap between the CV and the reality, between the images in the show with the ability to seek real and personal readiness. Why does this happen? answer, because there is no strong roots embedded in reality. Whether it's expertise, experience, skills and identity. There is a saying, empty barrel tinny sound, the sound grew louder empty. The more empty ourselves, the more we try to cover it up with things that dazzle the eye.

It all started life choices, what is the motivation to learn, college, school, if only because of necessity and lifestyles, or because for something to strengthen the foundations themselves. If we start the journey of our own lives by denying ourselves, then we must continue to walk in lies and falsehoods that. In falsehood, no roots, that there simply is no shadow illusion, good illusion of success, happiness illusion, the illusion of fame, and so on. What happens if we apply "self-portrait" which is actually an illusion. This is what accounts for the formation of doubt always seek in compensation (covered) in various ways.

This article deliberately designed to be a critical reflection materials for every reader, whether a degree candidate, prospective students, prospective applicants. Do we know what we're going in life, and have we struggled to walk towards our goal which is none other than our call, did we determine what our role on this earth. What is the form of our participation to change people's lives become increasingly better? The questions that will lead us to be vigilant at our option, either choose to listen to the call or choose not to vote even select others, all have consequences. However, choose according to the vocation and true interest, makes us more often and more boldly choosing courses and activities that are beneficial and in line with our goals despite facing a lot of risks, and one day it all became things that differentiate between ourselves and others. The courage to be.

This awareness is to be built before and during their studies in order to study periods or internship, is not passed in vain as a mere obligation or sheer fun. His college career, is a crucial period in shaping the next stage personality and professionalism though not printed in the CV, but seen in the results of the psychological test.

Understanding Myth and Reality About Elderly

In our society, it is common sense misconceptions and myths about the elderly, the elderly so much harm. Misguided is a false assumption and yet mistakenly pronounced and practiced anyway, so it's very harmful. In this case the aggrieved is the elderly, because it is a stigma (stigma) of the society and can affect people who actually have a concern to help the elderly. Misconception that often encountered in the community includes some of the following:

1. Elderly different from others
2. Elderly can not learn new skills and do not need education and training
3. Elderly difficult to understand new information
4. Elderly unproductive and a burden on society
5. Elderly helpless
6. Elderly can not make decisions
7. Seniors do not need love and not have sexual relations
8. Elderly do not enjoy life so can not rejoice
9. Elderly are weak, elderly, frail, ill or disabled
10. Seniors spend money for treatment
11. Elderly with dementia

In our society as the east with a very strong family culture; children, grandchildren and relatives of the elderly in general is not mind to accept the presence and the presence of elderly in the family. However, the wrong ideas as above can nevertheless affect family members in treating the elderly. This is what needs to be clarified so that it is not mistaken is prolonged and the need to find a way to promote understanding and correct understanding that the elderly have the same rights and obligations in accordance with the conditions, age, gender and social status in society. One way to reduce misunderstanding and wrong actions so that they can understand the elderly correctly is to look at the reality.

Elderly Different With Others

People who reach the stage of life's journey until they reach advanced age can be said to be a lucky person. They have received his life in a long time. In Indonesia, the government and senior management institutions, giving them the so-called benchmarks that are elderly who have reached the age of 60 years are represented by granting lifetime ID. But in developed countries were given more specific benchmarks: 65-75 years called old, 76-90 years old called - old and 90 years and over are called very old (WMRoan, 1990). Grouping these are theoretical means for scientific purposes but in reality for health care, social and so are not distinguished. Although the elderly are often given priority and facilities, for example, if a special plane to pieces, several attractions for visitors to give elderly free pass, at the airport or train station supplied counter / special roads for the elderly, it is not meant to discriminate elderly with others but rather to help smooth the services in accordance with the conditions and needs.

That the elderly should be respected of course we all agree. As the older east (read: older) is honored more than younger people. In older Javanese tradition as elders or elders are people who have a high honor and celebration when placed in a special place.

Elderly Can not Learn New Skills and No Need Education and Training

Reality in society, especially in universities that many seniors can complete their studies until the levels of S-2 or S-3, to compete with young people in an honest and objective. Even in the learning process along with the elderly it is often a model that provides motivation for his friends younger. It shows that the elderly can learn new skills as well as others, is only possible because of long practice and sometimes lack the confidence in his ability so take encouragement from others. For the elderly the drive and desire to learn new knowledge and skills is a matter of course, both the motivation to improve the quality of life and fills his spare time to be more productive and useful. The more knowledge and skills more and more elderly people are also things that can be donated to the community. This shows that the elderly are a source of knowledge and skills as well as excellent references and valuable, so it needs to be maintained. How to maintain it is to invite them to discuss, consult, ask questions and put the elderly as a resource in many areas of the loved and owned.

Based on the above facts are wrong when the elderly were considered unable to learn new knowledge and skills. Instead, they have remained a strong source of energy for learning, though it requires more motivator to convince that he is capable of. Erroneous view that older people are also saying that the elderly, frail, do not need to learn and practice, and not have to work, so it is recommended to take a break, feel-good, ongkang-ongkang leg at home. If the view is put into practice then it might sort of thing that will cause stress and distress and dispair (hopeless) in the elderly. It is a wise move if the family members continue to provide opportunities for seniors to conduct what he liked so while maintaining self-esteem, dignity and felt useful to others. In order for seniors to exist in families and communities that need education and training in terms of adjusting to the conditions and needs of personal and environmental demands.

Difficult Elderly Receiving New Information

In the elderly the opportunity to gain new information it is wide open, because it is relatively much spare time. Generally at this time are not required to work as hard as ever before. In the life of the elderly are generally hungry for new stories and new information, because they do not want to miss information than people who are younger. In fact we find that they are a lot of watching television, listening to the radio, reading newspapers, magazines or ask fellow seniors or younger people about about new things growing in the community. In fact seniors know better news from other people and are very pleased to deliver the news to his friends, as well as to younger ones. For the elderly that new information meant to stimulate cognitive function, affective functions and functions that make psikomotoriknya nerves continues to function normally.

Elderly and Being Unproductive Public Expense

Generally the elderly in developing countries and countries that do not have social security for old age, will continue to work to meet the demands of family life and provide for his dependents. So it is not entirely true to say unproductive elderly. In fact millions of people in this world work get paid, but there are also millions of people to work without getting paid as community leaders, scholars, teachers Koran, those who care for children, the sick, the disabled, the elderly, the very old, volunteer teachers and more. Both paid and that not all have a stake and contribute significantly in the development of society. Usually the elderly play its role as the people who work without getting paid but has a very important meaning in society because of the contributions of ideas and advice. In the process of aging itself they often find ways to appropriate and prudent in addressing the challenges faced. Therefore, it is not surprising that in many cases, the elderly are often the advisers are telling to address social problems in society. One thing to remember is that the very elderly need support or the support of family and community. Elderly is not a burden to the young, otherwise they often become role models for young people, for example, in manners, discipline, firmness of faith, honesty, spirit, and dignity.

Elderly Helpless

Not true argument that it is helpless elderly, because in reality the elderly still exist and continue to struggle for a better life. If an elderly person needs help he usually knows exactly what is reasonably necessary. They have a lot of experience in life, so that in everyday life we ​​often find that the elderly do not want to stay silent, there's all she wanted to do. Sometimes there are to be sluggish or resigned, they are generally elderly who in his youth has been depleted by heavy tasks and education levels are relatively low, resulting in a period of helpless elderly. To deal with such models elderly, the environment should always provide support and a sense of caring, so they do not feel left out and still have dignity. False is always accompanied elderly family members, prohibiting them to communicate with fellow seniors, forbade them to travel to a place for fear of exhaustion, and encourage the elderly to rest at home. Doing so will only worsen the condition of aging that result that they end up feeling helpless.

Elderly Can not Make Decisions For Life Himself

Everyone is sometimes difficult decisions. This applies to anyone, whether for young people or the elderly. However, this does not mean that older people can not make decisions for their own lives. Even the elderly as being honored, it is often used as a reference for the asked for advice by children, grandchildren and relatives, in making decisions. For example, a child or grandchild if they have grandparents, when will be holding a celebration would always ask for the blessing and nesehat in taking important decisions. Advice from parents who are elderly will be upheld and implemented by his descendants. Things to note that the elderly are able to take decisions for the benefit of life itself is often invited to discuss how new things and often ask for directions or petuahnya that he feels still exist and have confidence.

Elderly Do not Need Love and Sexual Relationships

Psychic functions well everyone cognitive, affective and conative (psychomotor), and combinations thereof, are contained in the body for life is still functioning. The process of thought, feeling and volition continue to function properly, especially when frequently stimulated regularly in life. Even relationships seksualpun keep running if they have a partner. Therefore, it is a wrong action if the elderly are encouraged to isolate themselves so as not to have a mind that is frustrating for him or troublesome desires of others. In order to keep burning passion elderly need to interact with young people to discuss, communicate or merriment. Unfortunately, often young people are not interested in doing that. However, when young people have a true understanding of the needs of the elderly and mental well-being willing to help them, should the young (especially family members) want to do good for the benefit of the elderly.

Elderly Not So Enjoy Life Can not Rejoice

Basically no one in the world had planned to stop having fun, unless that person is in a state of depression or distress. Everyone wants to live happy, happy and prosperous, including the elderly. Elderly now actually crave the pleasures of life in the old days. That is why since young people have been working hard, so that in old age pensions or savings are enough to enjoy old age. Hope it is a dream every person, so motivated to learn from elementary school through college and even now all racing to learn to S-3. It would endeavor to seek knowledge aiming to get a steady job, so it will have a prosperous old age, old age can enjoy life and be happy or elderly who can rejoice.

In order for the elderly to enjoy life in the old days so it can be joyful or happy, it needs the support of those close to them. This support is intended to allow elderly people can still carry out daily activities on a regular basis and not excessive. Support from kin may have been a suggestion that the elderly are warned not to work excessive (if the elderly are still working), provides the opportunity for seniors to make the activity a hobby, provide an opportunity for seniors to run properly worship, and give time a break enough to him so that the elderly are not easily stressed and anxious. It should be understood that once people reach older age, physical or mental, social is slowly changing, but it can be held that the change is not too perceived as obstacles in life. The changes that occur should not be a source of stress but to watch the periodic health examination. If people believe that he is healthy, then he will have a good passion for life and do not show excessive worry.

Weak Elderly, Elderly, Vulnerable, Sickly or Disability

It is not entirely correct notion that the elderly frail, elderly, frail, ill or disabled, because in fact many elderly are still handsome, still able to work hard and even many who still have an important position in an agency. Indeed, there is sometimes a frail elderly (easy to fall, easy to get sick) or ill or disabled but it applies to everyone, whether young people are also there who have such conditions. The health condition of people in the community according to current medical paradigm graduated from: more healthy, healthy, healthy sick (ill health), illness and disability (impairment â € "disability â €" handicap). Health conditions that apply both to children, adolescents, adults and the elderly, so it is actually not the elderly are sick or disabled, so that others can

Elderly Spend Money for Treatment

It is true that the elderly need to perform periodic health checks, but that does not mean that they are ailing. To maintain health would also require medication, but that does not mean exhaust the money for treatment. It should be understood that the way people live to the age of 70 upwards definitely sugar, salt and fat in the body is a lot more, so it's easy to be vulnerable to diabetes, stroke, heart or other. But everything will be controlled if people are diligent health check. Elderly who are aware of the conditions he must also be set to better their lives, such as excessive eating, dieting, do not do excessive activities, thus minimizing the occurrence of disease. Seniors generally know and understand themselves in maintaining and preserving the health of her that indicated a mild form of exercise diligent, diligent prayer and care for them.

Elderly Same With Senile

This view is wrong because not all older adults experiencing dementia (senile). This dementia is a disease (pathological) in the elderly, which is characterized by a decrease in short-term memory. In memory of human life will change with age, so that after a person becomes older he was quickly able to remember something, particularly something new. But the assumption that older people with dementia is a mistake. Many ways to adjust to changes in memory and a lot of things that affect human memory, at any age memory will be less sharp if the trsebut in a state of fatigue, stress, anxiety, worry, depression, pain or restless soul.

In order to keep the memory rapidly changing elderly do not frontally, because the physical condition and age, it should be avoided or at least reduced from things that can cause fatigue, worries, anxiety, emotional excitability, depression and pain. This is where the concerns of younger people is needed as a control so that the elderly do not do things that harm themselves.

Playing With Children

Childhood is the period where they learn about the world through play. Playing a means as well as a bridge between what is in the realm of fantasy with what they (can) they realize. Children do not see the game as a "play" as parents or adults see play is something that is not real. Children are smaller consider playing is a reality as well as adults to work, go to school, clean the house, etc.. Playing is a world where they are and give meaning to everything they encounter in the game.

In the game, children can learn to recognize what they can do yourself and which ones need to help parents. Children learn to measure ability and measuring challenges. In fact, according to research conducted Lewis (2000), children aged 1-6 years to learn to develop problem solving skills of the play, because play presents a variety of contexts and situations should they hadapai on the spot. Through play, children find creative ways and unique in addressing the problem.

Actually, if summarized, there are many benefits of play for children, in addition to those already mentioned above. A study conducted over a period of many years found that when small children (ages 4 years old) love playing blocks or lego, when the school showed higher math skills.

Problem In Playing

Today, the play becomes less meaningful and less benefits, and even too much loss. What is wrong with this play?

1. No clear objectives we often encounter children who play just for killing time, spend time, either because of lack of activity or waiting parent, driver or pick. The problem is, your favorite game is the game for killing time or the like are available in the mobile phone or smartphone, ipad, etc.. Some are good, but more destructive, like bloody games, at-blow, shooting, which makes players satisfied when it can kill as the only solution and receive the greatest rewards.

In the Journal of Adolescence 27 (2004) 5-22 contains the results of the research impact of video games on adolescent hostile. As the game is the "most popular" in this century, the game makes adolescents more hostile turns hostile, aggressive and rude, in arguing with the teacher / authority figure and more physical fights and making achievement worse. Phenomenon in Indonesia today, young children of primary school age and even kindergartens already exposed by hostile games through games and TV. With these findings, it can be imagined how it would be the children of our future.

2. Not according to the medium and the needs of children

We see many outstanding games that no matter age category, which sells essential. In fact, the game was hostile to adults. Similarly, TV shows, even though the film Popeye or Mr. Bean even Tom and Jerry, Sponge Bob, Bart Simpson, the films showed a lot of plot, storyline, or events that are not suitable to be consumed young children are in the process of value formation. The films were actually miniature adults, so that eventually the kids really into miniature adults because it mimics a cartoon character on TV who made the style of mind (and his delinquency) adults.

3. There is no engagement or involvement

Often happens, the children were told to play and the game so as not to disturb or bother adults / parents. Some parents are reluctant to play with the children, being busy, or do not connect with the child because of differences in the world who do not (want to) dive.

Baby sitter or ya, not necessarily the type who are willing and able to dive into the world of the child, due in part to consider the main task is to maintain and serve in the literal sense. When the game is done not by the liver, then the play becomes more bland. In the vapidity that is, do not wake sebenanarnya sensitivity and empathy that can be honed through play. As a result children are easily bored and easily frustrated. Conversely, engaging in a game, there will be an open two-way discussion of possible solutions. Playing cars, police-police, fire, cooking-dishes, all of which "ordinary" could be a lively and interesting if the players emotionally engaged and of course, fantasy. Without the involvement of body and soul, expensive games were not necessarily able to bring meaning and terrible impact on the children.

Edward Fisher, a psychologist found a link between playing with the development of language skills. He found that playing role-play, enhance cognitive abilities and socio-linguistic affective child. That's why playing with heart is important to create a lively and enjoyable play.

Constraints Kids To Play

Some of the things that often constrain the child in the play, is the lack of a play area like a field and the grass is now very rare, especially for urban children. Means a game that can be enjoyed and utilized public were hardly available, except to the arcade in the mall and had to pay. In addition to the above issues, there are constraints and substantially more crucial because there are obstacles in front of the eye and occurs almost every day unnoticed by parents. Constraints that can be termed as an inhibitor, namely:

1. Fear of parents

"Look down!", "Do not, just do not be up-up", "watch could slip you know". Many parents voiced expressions while being with their children in public places. The attitude of the overprotective parent, the child and dependent less confident. Anxiety and fear parents read to children as an expression of their distrust of the child's ability to overcome the situation. The mechanism thus, when parents do not believe the child, the child ultimately doubting and questioning their ability. Furthermore, children will limit themselves before they explore the possibility and ability, before they reach their upper limit. This is the source of inferiority and low self-esteem.

2. Value

Values ​​held and believed to affect the child's parents. For example, there are call "boys should not be time-cooking, I'll be gay". While the concept of homo himself out of reach of children's minds are still innocence. "Girls really climb climb, come on down, you're not a boy." Some parents think it must be hard to educate children and children should be limited as a family tradition. Parents will prevent the exploration of her child and the world and its future.

3. Ego

"Do not play on the beach, summer, later mama so black" or "Watch the show mama alone, more exciting than watching cartoons" or "Play together Ma'am there, Dad was busy ya, this is more important because". Without realizing it, the needs and wishes of parents raced to the needs of children, to be realized. This situation actually sat parent becomes childish, and set the child becomes older because the child which eventually relented after parents.

What will happen?

If left unchecked, the process of learning by doing and experiencing being hampered because of constrained many things. Meanwhile, there are many tasks that must be executed by the development of our children in order to Developing various components is crucial to the growth, maturity and success of their lives in the future. These components are:

Survival skills, ie the ability to survive and come out as a winner in life, able to control life and not allow themselves to be victims of circumstance.

The ability of empathy, the ability to understand the situation, feelings, difficulties, limitations and humanity of the other, as it understands itself

The ability to manage emotions, the ability to process feelings, to have a proper sense of intuition and sharpness

Adaptability, ability to adapt to the surrounding environment as well as new things

The ability to grow, the ability to continue to seek and undertake growth, to get out of a sense of comfort (comfort) to find something better.

Recovery and reconstruction capability, capacity rise from failure, learning from failure and fix errors

The ability to find the essentials, looking for true virtue, the ability to distinguish, what is primarily and foremost in my life, what is the dream and calls later life.

The ability to build the value of the infrastructure, the ability to adopt and internalize the noble values ​​that became the foundation of behaving and acting.

Solution Playing With Asik

Until whenever, children will need to play, therefore, presents a challenge to the game and a quality playing time is a challenge for modern parents. Solution to play in modern times is not too difficult to run even though constrained arena and facilities. All of it was number 2, the most important is the involvement of parents (and other caregivers), the relationship between parent and child and the parents or guardians of creativity with children are invited to play. Basically, all creative children, but adults often lose the creativity and power of fantasy and lost interest to play the rhythm of the child. There are some prerequisites to pursue the exciting games and qualified:

Let go of "Take Image". Keep your distance from the image to enlarge the child so there is no chemistry that makes the atmosphere play into life.

Remove the idealism and judgment. Idealism and judgment make us tend to judge everything and eventually lost interest to play because everything is measured assessment wear glasses and "what others say"

Seek. Many games are cheap and cool can be done if we as adults like working on first. For example, you want to play while doing simple experiments at home, the parent or chaperone need to prepare the ingredients, assisted by the involvement of children in order to wake it from the beginning. Without effort, then the game is cheap and educate will not be realized.

Move. Many of simple games that can be realized if we are willing to move. The problem nowadays adults tend lazy move, but spend more time on the computer, mobile phone or television or other smartphone.

Get used to it. Make the play with the child becomes a habit and needs of both parties. Emotional ties will be established automatically when we give ourselves completely as children give themselves completely to "that very moment". Bond is the one who will make the parent-child relationship into an open relationship and mutual respect, mutual understanding and support; parent and child is one team.

Some game types solutif

Creating a simple scientific experiment, with ingredients available at home. Trial games are not only fun but also educational.

Playing musical instruments to kitchen equipment or objects other safe. Make your own music instrument also fun and can be used continuously.

Play bowling with bottles and balls

Playing basketball with a bucket and hung a light bulb

Playing badminton

Guess the words and puzzles

Playing roles such as fire, picnic to the zoo, police coast guard, traffic police, little chef, etc.

Playing lego, chess, snakes and ladders and monopoly and other similar games. We can make your own snakes and ladders or monopoly with a more interesting challenge.

Treasure hunting, to draw a map of their own and hid some treasures in the corners of the house .. This game can be played as a group, perfect for a holiday or a party.

Make cake, which does not require fire and stove, or an adult assisted during baking

Art and craft with scrap materials, such as tissue box unused, dry leaves, etc.

Farming in polybag and maintaining plants and pets

Playing with a magnifying glass to see objects closer

Jump rope or play traditional games such congklak balls, jacks, etc.

Playing outdoor swimming, bicycle, roller skates, skate boards, to practice climbing trees (if there is a tree that can be climbed).

Many games can be done, but it all takes effort and willingness, especially from the parents or caregivers. One thing to note also, that basically if parents participate in their children play, parents will also feel the benefits for the body and soul. Playing for adults are also helpful to revive energy, treating stress, foster creativity, hopes and dreams, overcoming loneliness and sadness, as well as improved durability and life pressures. There are many other benefits of play for adults. Therefore, for anyone who still has young children at home, play with the chemistry that exists in order to build positive energy to both parties and to build character of children who are more confident and positive.